I'm frequently surprised by how many couples measure the success and/or failure of their relationship merely on the presence of conflict. In reality, conflict-avoidance is usually more of a detriment to relationships than the original conflict itself, and it's not possible to have a healthy, intimate relationship without it.
Dr. Sue Johnson, primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), said/tweeted it best today, "When marriages fail, it is not increasing conflict that is the cause.It is decreasing affection & emotional responsiveness."
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